Belief1st's Blog

All my life, and for most of you, all of yours, we have been told that if we work hard, knuckle down, nose to the grindstone and all those other old sayings AND we will achieve success.

But is that really the case?

I know that I worked hard to achieve success in sport, but that was about being fit and the level of fitness required was well above that of the ordinary person in the street, so I get that. And by the way it felt really good to be that fit. Oh to be there now…LOL! But it was fun in the most part and it didn’t feel all that hard as it was something we did regularly (Although some of those hills in the pre-season weren’t that easy).

But what if it was meant to be easy?

Do you know people in your life that have worked hard all their lives, only to just get by? And others who seem to never really work that hard, they get to play and travel a lot and have nary a worry in the world.

What is the difference?

For one, the second group have a completely different outlook on what is required to be successful. For instance, they expect good things to happen for and to them. Guess what? They happen!

The first group on the other hand have a view of life where struggle is expected and that is what they get. They probably actually work longer hours, they stress more, yet never seem to catch up.

I have written over the last few weeks about knowing where you want to get to, focusing on that and that is part of it. (Check out https://belieffirst.wordpress.com/2020/01/22/life-is-a-mirror/ to understand this better). It is also about expectation and not getting distracted by alternatives that take your focus elsewhere, or getting taken into negative situations by your reaction to various situations/events, or people who are being negative.

The old saying, it is hard to soar like an eagle, when you are surrounded by turkeys comes to mind at this point.

The easy bit comes from having a clear mind, focused on what it is you want, expecting that it will come to pass and not being taken off course by other shiny objects or negative people/situations and feeling good at the same time. Feelings and emotions have a very big part to play in all of this.

So breathe in the good air and feel good, that is a start.

If you think it is easy, this to shall come to pass.

Namaste!

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A lot of the time people complain or comment on the things they don’t like about something, someplace or other people. However, when questioned what is it they want/desire, rather talking about what they don’t want, they can’t actually tell you.

Or they launch into some grandiose scheme of luxury cars, trips to amazing places and huge houses. However, when questioned on the specifics of what it is they are after, they then become hazy or vague, as if they are not really sure. And in most cases they aren’t.

We have all been told to dream big and that we can have anything we want (and we can), there is of course some things we need to do or be, before they will come to fruition. One of these is to have real clarity about your goals/desires.

The reason I use the term desires is that to want something means you come from a position of lack. (Definition:a lack or deficiency of something.), Whereas to desire something implies that there is feeling and emotion, eg Something that you really desire is…? For me that elicits some positive energy. And that is what is required to achieve your desires.

It is not enough to sit there and want something. It is about getting an energetic connection with the object of your desires. To feel really excited or passionate about what it is you are after. To sit in solitude and ponder on what it is you desire, seeing yourself already with that object/place and feeling what it would be like to have achieved that goal. The more specificity in your vision, the quicker you can manifest it.

Manifesting your desires is like everything else you have ever learned, it usually takes time and practice to achieve the great things. Depending on how old you are, there are years and years of thinking otherwise that have to be reversed. Kids on the other hand are wonderful manifesters, largely because they don’t have the fear of failure, or the doubts that come with being an adult to hold them back.

So back to my first question, Do you know where you are going? If you want to have certainty about where you are going and what you will achieve, have and be, then you need to spend some time clarifying in your mind, what it is you truly desire and then spend time getting energetically (emotionally – emotions are energy in motion) connected to those things, events or people.

Good luck and if you have any challenges, email me on dunny1@me.com.

Do you know or do you think you Know?

Interesting question.

The reason I ask is that when you know something and I mean really know it, it is very powerful. Knowing something is more powerful than believing something. Believing in something inherently implies that there is still some doubt, however, small that may be.

What I am going to do is challenge some of what you think you know that could be holding you back.

Knowing means there is no doubt. So when someone is trying to convince you of something, or sell you something, do they really Know or do they just believe in what they are trying to sell you on?

Some little things that you know with complete confidence are your eye colour, for most guys there hair colour (sorry ladies – too much changing of colours to be completely confident!) You know your birthday. You know where you live.

Easy right, then we go into more complex areas and the challenge is do you know or do you believe. For instance, and this might get a little touchy for some. The political party you support, even I am not sure on this one. I know I believe about certain issues, can I guarantee that I know with certainty, probably not.

Spirituality for some also falls into this basket; Science and some of their claims for many fall into this basket.

So what is it that you really know? Spend some time and think about this. When you get to something that you think you know, ask how you know. Question the result you get. Challenge its veracity. If you are not sure, do some research, there is so much information online, I am sure you can find some evidence either way.

The reason I have gone down this path is that there are a lot of things we say to ourselves constantly that influence what we do and how we feel. Many of them are not true and have been carried with us for a long time because someone said something to us once and because they were in a position of power and influence on us, we believed it and have continued to ever since.

Such things as “You’ll never amount to much” (unworthiness); You are too small/slow/fat/clumsy (how many kids carry this with them for years?); “You’re not smart enough to do that” (unworthiness again), are carried with people for the rest of their lives, especially when said to young children and teenagers, whose minds are like play dough and take in everything that is said to them – unfortunately to stay with them and influence their own self talk for many years to come.

So again I ask you the first question, what is it that you know? Write down a list and if the items on the list are not working for you or are limiting in any way, challenge them. What would the opposite of that be? Write that down, which one is right? Which one will give you a better life from this moment forward?

My suggestion is to start believing in the outcome that gives the better result and if it isn’t true right now, work towards it becoming true so in the future you can say with 100% confidence that you know it.

Interested in hearing your thoughts.

Have an awesome day!

Paul

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Who determines whether we are happy or not?

Is it us, or the people around us?

Many people would respond it is based on others, however, operating from the point of view that we create our own reality, is happiness therefore based on how you turn up, or respond to various people/situations/factors?

I am operating from the point of view that it is up to me whether I am happy or not. It is not based on external factors or my response to them.

This can be a little confronting for many people who are not in the life situation they would like to be. In that situation, we have been taught in many ways, that we need someone to blame for it.

Someone cuts me off in traffic – therefore I am justified in yelling at them, and then recounting the story to others (to perpetuate the negativity) for hours after. If it didn’t result in an action, did it really matter? Did it require us to be negative for the period of time after that we focused on it? In both cases probably not. And as with the old quote about hate and the effect it has on the other person, the driver of the other car is none the wiser and therefore your negativity has only impacted you and those you have shared it with.

Another way to handle it is to send the other person some love and light and get on with the things that are really important to you. Like the big dreams and goals you are chasing. In the bigger scheme, focusing on them will have an infinitely bigger impact (and more positive) on your life.

In his book, The Resilience Project, by Hugh Van Cuylenburg, Hugh refers to a student in his class in an Indian school in far north India named Stanzin, who seemed to have found the secret to happiness. He appreciated and was grateful for everything.

In talking with my mentor we discovered what I already knew deep down. When talking about most things, I feel the need to share all the details (which frustrates my wife and people who have known me forever) and part of this is focusing on the negative bits, to the extent of glossing over the positive elements. Why?

It is not helpful to talk about the negatives or to keep talking about them.

My focus now is to share the positives with people and look for something in everything or situation to appreciate. Much like the student in Hugh’s story, if this is achieved, you will be happy.

Western societies (any many others in the last 50 years) are now focused on achieving more, nothing is ever good enough, others always have more than us and therefore, we have incredibly high rates of depression and suicide in societies that are so far progressed from where they were 200 years ago. Unfortunately, that progress hasn’t translated into higher levels of happiness, if anything they have translated into greater isolation, depression and unhappiness.

There is a great quote – many people are working in jobs they don’t like to earn money to buy things they don’t need to impress people they don’t like…pretty sad really.

Happiness is an inside thing. What can you do to be more happy? What is there in your life to appreciate? Stop worrying about what you don’t have. Focus on what you can do to change your situation and then you might find the answers you are looking for.

Enjoy the day and find something to appreciate!

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In western societies we have all been told that if we work hard we will end up getting what we want.

However, in most western countries, people work hard all their lives and do what they are told in terms of saving for their retirement. Some do really well, most do not. They actually end up in retirement having enough money to get by and not much more. So if they have done all that they have been told, why is this so.

I am not going to get into the economics or political side of these issues.

In reality, it is because we have fallen for the story that we need to work hard. So we work hard.

In reality we all know people who seem to get by with everything happening for them in a seemingly easy fashion. They don’t try hard, they don’t seem to work hard. It is frustrating sometimes watching them achieve what they do without seeming to put in the effort.

How is this so?

The secret is to get in tune with your energy field. This sounds a little airy fairy for some people, but stick with me.

We have discussed in earlier posts that everything is energy and we are all part of the same energy field. Things come together for you when you get in alignment with the energy of what it is you are after.

For many this sounds too esoteric and weird. So it is about believing that what you want is actually achievable. A lot of us have been told that you need to dream big and focus on what it is you want to get what you want. We also get told that you need to plan out what it is you need to do to get what you want.

In reality, part of this is correct. DREAM BIG, maybe BIGGER!

The next part is the bit that is not taught to most of us. You need to focus on what it is you want at the end and the trick to getting it is to actually feel what it would be like to be in that position. If it is being outside, can you feel the wind in your hair, the sun on your skin? How do you feel having achieved what you really wanted? Is there someone there that you want to share this with?

The more you get in the feeling of the moment and you believe it is real, the more likely it is you will get it.

DON’T WORRY ABOUT HOW IT WILL HAPPEN!

Focusing on the how, will take you off course.

There is a great rule I heard years ago. It is the 1/10/89 rule.

1% is the stuff you know – really know – like the colour of your hair.

10% is the stuff you don’t know; and

89% is the stuff you don’t know you don’t know!

So trying to work out how everything is going to work out is beyond the normal human.

Stepping back and focusing on what it is you want – and feeling what it would be like to have achieved it, (not resisting that it is possible) and doing what you feel is right for you to do, you will be where you want to BE!

BE – DO – HAVE!

Go out and allow what it is you want to happen, be the person you need to be to allow that to happen.

Go have fun!